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February 12th, 2008

Essex church offers free weddings

essex church offers free weddings

An Essex church is offering free weddings. The cost of the service, the choir, the organist, the verger and the heating is being waived by the church, Holy Trinity in Springfield. The fees normally cost £280 alone. From the Chelmsford Diocesan website:

Valentine sweethearts can tie the knot for free at a Chelmsford church. Romantic Rev Tim Ball, vicar of Holy Trinity Springfield, believes that marriage is best. So he’s waiving the cost of the service, the choir, the organist, the verger and the heating.

And the good news is that the offer will be available throughout the year.

“My church believes that marriage is best for couples, for children and for the community,” says big-hearted Tim.

“So we have put our money where our mouth is. We will pay all the costs of the service in the church. We are offering a free marriage service to parishioners because Holy Trinity is a good place to celebrate love and commitment.”

Presumably the organist, choir, verger and the man who turns the handle on the boiler have been consulted.

Before you all rush off to get married there I should make you aware of the small print. One of you has to live in the parish or you have to be ‘full and regular members’. Not full or regular, full and regular. It’s both/and, not either/or. There is also a marriage preparation evening which must be attended and an optional 8 week ‘bolt-on’ course all about ‘the basics of the Christian faith and what it means for today’.

In the unlikely event that you meet these criteria and happen to want to get married this year and happen to be a reader of this blog – what are you waiting for? Give the ‘Romantic Rev’ a call.

Update: I asked Rev Tim how they could afford to do it and he has kindly got back to me. Everyone is being paid as per usual. The church has made a decision to foot the bill. Here’s a section of his response:

These are our points for doing it. (I would say that we are doing it for people who live in our parish – it is not for the whole world.)

  • We want to say how important we think marriage is, best for couples, best for children, best for society.
  • We want to express our faith in generous giving – we don’t want to say we will ‘do it for Free’ – but that we will ‘pay for it’ because we have to pay the fees to the diocese, to the organist and for the verger etc, – so it is not just a case of not collecting the fee payable to the PCC.
  • We would like to highlight the fact that the Christian marriage service expresses a higher ideal of committed love than any other wedding service.
  • We hope we might encourage couples who aren’t married to consider it, or even to do it.
  • We want to put our money where our mouth is – in that sense it is sacrificial, we see it as an investment in the kind of society we would like to see as bearing the marks of the kingdom of God.

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  1. Pax Vobiscum says:

    I think there must be some extra small print somewhere – because according to the Ecclesiastical Fees Measure, 1986, there are certain Statutory Fees which have to be paid – totalling around £281.00. These have to be paid by someone.

    On top of these the church may charge for heat, organist, videoing (copyright on the organist’s performance, music, etc), flowers, bells and for use of the building. These can easily be more than the £281.00.

    I can understand if the church is waiving these, it has a right to do that. But if it waives the Statutory Fees then those big, burly minders we call Archdeacons might be wanting to pay a visit.

    Unless the church is very generously paying those fees itself. Which could be a good symbol of God’s abundant giving. Or is could be one way for the Treasurer to lose all their hair.

  2. Pax Vobiscum says:

    Yes, OK read it all through properly now. They are paying for it themselves. I think that is generous. If they can afford to do it then the gesture is good. But will it draw any more couples in? Will it make a lasting impression on the couples and increase their desire to spend more time in the church community? And should that be a reason for doing this?

  3. Izyanna says:

    Good for them. I know I’d have much preferred the attitude of “we believe in the inportance of your marriage so we’ll put up the required money”, rather than the attitude of the pastor who married my husband and I over ten years ago, which was “it’ll never last, but I suppose you’re paying me to do this” – an attitude that arrived with our first counselling session and lasted until well after our wedding day – which sort of put me off church for a long while.

    Of course, if they’re cutting off another vital part of the church to do this, it’s not so good, but provided they can afford it, then it’s an awesome idea.

  4. Peter Kirk says:

    We talked about doing something similar in our neighbouring parish of Great Baddow, and indeed I think we have occasionally waived the fees. But it took Tim Ball, originally from our parish, to make this a regular offer.

    We believe that marriage is best for you, your children and for our community.

    This seems to imply some expectation that those being married already have children!

  5. Stuart says:

    This seems to imply some expectation that those being married already have children!

    I’ve lost count of the baptisms I’ve done where i’ve overheard the couples then say, not that we’ve got the baby done, we can get married!!!

  6. joe says:

    Of course, out of an average £16,000 wedding, the church fees are next to nothing. The church needs to grapple with this issue if we actually want to offer something tangible to people who do not get married for understandable financial reasons.

    As it happens, a few churches in our area are getting together to try to work out how we can tackle this issue in a meaningful way.

  7. Justin (3MinuteTheologian) says:

    Joe is right. The problem is that the Church (and churches) operate in an economy where £281 + extras makes all the difference between paying quotas and for mission, and panic (my church unusually had only three weddings last year and this seriously hit our budget.) But the wedding business operates in an economy where Debenhams have recently raised the upper limit of wedding insurance to £70,000 (!). Offering to pay the wedding fees looks a little like the widow’s mite in a world which despises widows.

    More grumpy rantings to a similar effect here.

  8. joe says:

    I apologise, it appears that a the average wedding is nearer £20K than £16K.

    So this church is offering about a 1.5% discount on the cost of an average wedding.

  9. Tim Ball says:

    “But will it draw any more couples in?”
    that’s not the point. We want to bless people at the start of their married life.

    “This seems to imply some expectation that those being married already have children!”
    They may or they may not – but children do ensue from marriage and marriage meant to be a life long committment whatever else comes along.
    We just want to see stable communities, healthy children and happy couples.

  10. joe says:

    Which is admirable, Tim.

    The problem, as I explained above, is that paying the church fees yourself is only going to use up your funds and make almost zero difference to the cost of a wedding.

    We need much more creative thinking.

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  12. Tim Ball says:

    I don’t think finance is an ‘understandable reason’ not to get married. it depends what is important to you. If you want to invest in a party which lasts a day and is gone forever then it will cost you a fortune. But if you want to invest in what is really important in life long commitment, then you don’t spend your money on it – you spend your life.

  13. joe says:

    I think you’ll find that a significant number of people who recognise marriage as an institution worth supporting (which according to recent surveys is more than 80% of people) but then don’t get married give finances as an important factor. According to CofE funded research, anyway.

    That fact that those of us in church don’t see it as a particular barrier just goes to show how out of touch we really are. Hardly any sane person on an average income is going to spend £20K on a single day. Yet the expectation (and the reality of most people’s experience) is that weddings cost that much money.

    I am searching for research linking debt caused by weddings to divorce. Given that money is the primary cause of divorce, I suspect that there is a significant effect. Which is intolerable for those of us who believe in the institution of marriage – sensible people are put off by the cost and those who jump through the necessary hoops are lumbered with significant debts.

  14. Judy Redman says:

    Here in Australia, there are no statutory fees, at least not in my denomination, but we still get people who say they can’t afford to get married. My niece was one of them. In fact, she and her partner ran the line “now that we’re pregnant, we can’t afford to get married.” What they actually mean is “We can’t afford to have the kind of big glitzy wedding we’d like to have.” My niece could have got married absolutely for free (although it would have cost thme $35 to get a copy of the full marriage certificate). I could have done the ceremony in front of two people over 18 and she and her partner could have worn clothes they already owned. As long as I used a form of ceremony approved by my denomination they would have been married legally and almost certainly also in the sight of God. :-)

  15. joe says:

    Sure – but that is highly embarrassing for most people, Judy. I can understand why few do that.

  16. Tim Ball says:

    I have one couple taken me up on it. SHe said she is going to wear a ‘fancy dress’, her friend is going to france to get some cheap champaign and she said she is going to make some cup cakes.

    She also said, she could get hold of £20,000 if she wanted to but thinks spending that amount is just silly.

  17. Tim Ball says:

    What Is should have written was:-

    I have one couple who have taken me up on it. SHe said she is not going to wear a ‘fancy dress’, her friend is going to france to get some cheap champaign and she said she is going to make some cup cakes.

    She also said, she could get hold of £20,000 if she wanted to but thinks spending that amount is just silly

  18. Steve says:

    We have friends who’ve got married for under 1,000 pounds, so the fees were quite a chunk.

    My friends getting married shortly are having a bring and share supper for the evening do.

    Averages are always tricky to see in practice, but I imagine there are a lot of people for whom the fees dropping would make quite a difference.

    Money aside – I think this is a wonderful idea Tim, especially when the church is commonly seen as grabbing and hypocritical when it comes to money. What a great way to serve couples in your parish. If I may be so bold – Well done for taking the initiative.

    Steve

  19. Karin says:

    My mum made my dress, mum-in-law made our cake and we hired the village hall for the reception, but we did have caterers and a photographer, so the fees for the church ceremony probably weren’t too high a proportion of the overall cost. We still spent a lot less than the average wedding at the time and had a lot of fun.

  20. Tim Ball says:

    Amazingly – a local professional photographer has contacted me and asked if he can add his free photo’s to my free weddings – how fantastic is that!!!